Tuesday, July 7, 2015

Two Weeks

June 23rd, Dorsey and I made the drive from DFW to the Houston area. The movers were kind and patient. Patient with Mom's requests, but also with the other residents' walker & wheelchair traffic jam in the hall outside the dining room as lunch time approached.

As we headed south on I 45, we stopped a couple of times along the way enough to keep our legs (and bladders) functional; once at  The Collins Street Bakery  and again at Buc-ees. Stocking up on unnecessary sweets and treats just seemed the thing to do. Who knows when we'll drive that way again?

We were both glad to arrive at the house, followed shortly by the moving truck. The guys unloaded way more boxes than I remember seeing them load up. WAY more. Fortunately, I'd previously emptied our front room to pile boxes in, to be unpacked as needed, and so the furniture could easily go straight into her room. The first order of business was to arrange her recliner & get the tv working. The bed and other furniture got settled into place and, little by little, everything is finding a new place to belong.

The first week in the new home was a rough one for Dorsey, and concerning for me. I thought at first it was just the mistake of taking medications on an empty stomach that upset her system. But, no, it took several days of nibbling ice chips before she had any desire for solid food. Let's just call it the Belly Rebellion. Too much change?

Bit by bit, that missing appetite returned, and with it came renewed strength to get into some of those boxes and look for all those things that have been on her mind. We've made a lot of headway. There's still a ways to go.

Today we made our first jaunt through Walmart together. This evening Dorsey, me and The Hub-man, all over-enjoyed pork tenderloin, black eyed peas, cole slaw, and corn bread.

But late this evening it was my turn for a Belly Rebellion. - a surprise attack; Mom suddenly announced I had to give her 3 injections, tonight. I'm not crazy about being on either end of a needle and I've never given an injection before. Boy, was I a jittery mess. I'm sure I'll get better with -ULP- more practice, but she didn't complain. She wouldn't. That's just Dorsey.



Monday, June 8, 2015

This Is The Post That Begins The Blog About Welcoming Mom Into Our Home

It is happening. Dorsey is coming. 

Not on her own, of course. I expect to drive up and bring her back here - and I hope to see that the movers load everything from her tiny studio in the assisted living center in North Texas and deliver it all to my home in South Texas. 

Thank you, Aunt & Uncle, for providing her so much needed support, and for providing me so much peace of mind for these last several years. You have earned the right to do whatever you darned please. 

Are there merit badges for husbands? My amazing man enthusiastically agreed to relinquish the master bedroom and newly renovated master bathroom to welcome Mom into our daily lives. And he single-handedly moved our belongings to an upstairs bedroom, where we now live. He adapts to my anticipatory household purging/re-organizing with bitten tongue. This is worthy of the highest level husband merit badge, without a doubt. 

My mom deserves any trouble we might possibly take (and it truthfully hasn't been much). Dorsey sacrificed, as all good moms do, to set me off in the right direction and then fully supported me along the way whether I continued in the right direction or not. 

So, after long consideration, pondering, and procrastination, I'm starting this blog to document this journey of love. And I'm not just talking about the journey across 250 miles that have separated us for the last 11 years. 

A lot of change has already happened, at least within our household. Paring down possessions, reorganizing, repainting, re-learning how to cook daily meals....But no matter how much I think or work or plan and prepare, I can't shake the certain conviction that we haven't really begun to adapt yet. 

How can we? No matter how we try to prepare, this will be a seat-of-the-pants experience. Dorsey had a head start. She's been rolling with life's punches for 82 years, so far. In 2 weeks time, Hubby and I will find out first hand just how much we'll have to up our game to keep up with her.




Dorsey hates posing for pictures. I had to sneak up on her.